tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post113097576228672645..comments2023-10-30T04:41:01.066-07:00Comments on Confessions From A Stay At Homo (SAHM): What's In A Name?giddingshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02999401177122785401noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post-1131255269392799342005-11-05T21:34:00.000-08:002005-11-05T21:34:00.000-08:00Another wacky BLA question that I get is "Why don'...Another wacky BLA question that I get is "Why don't you have a baby at the same time as each other? Then you could raise your kids together!"<BR/>As if one hormonally rollercoasting woman isn't enough under one roof. As if it's that easy for 2 women to conceive in the same cycle. As if both of us want to carry. As if we're not going to raise our kid together anyway. Oh - it's just stupid on so many levels!<BR/>But beyond that.... in our state we're pretty limited with our legal rights in parenting together. We can't do second parent adoption and whilst we're going to have guardianship papers drawn up and everything, at least with the same last name we show we're a family unit (no matter what our Prime Minister says) and it shows intent for legal reasons. I'm currently still using my ex-husbands name (I changed it at marriage cause I can't stand my fathers family) and have been intending to change it to my grandmothers maiden name but have been holding off since being with my partner in case of children. We're going to hyphenate my grandma's maiden name with partners family name. I suspect her family will think it's odd but will be thrilled that our child (their first grandchild) will be sharing their family name.<BR/><BR/>I'm loving your blog Giddings - I'm going to send partner in your direction to read up!Mermaidgrrrlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14236621711615287305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post-1130991583546214752005-11-02T20:19:00.000-08:002005-11-02T20:19:00.000-08:00I love the idea that there are "big Lesbian advant...I love the idea that there are "big Lesbian advantages"! I think my new favorite acronym is going to be BLAs as in "I have the BLAs!"<BR/><BR/>Okay, on a side note, joe from the oc, and I say this only because BioMom and I were in that "mind body" group for fertility and I learned a whole lot about that, you need to be careful assuming that all women can, in fact, bear children.<BR/><BR/>Since I personally have no clue as to my degree of fertility, I take no offense. You know, I would have tried to have a kid had she not gotten pg. I say that knowing that all of my peeps out there in cyber land are having a hearty laugh at the thought of it. But yeah. I would have. And if, we find ourselves on some strange planet in the future where we are desiring a third, then well, the responsibility will probably fall on me. I'd love it (the experience of it, as you say). But I am also completely whole without it.giddingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999401177122785401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post-1130987960938579132005-11-02T19:19:00.000-08:002005-11-02T19:19:00.000-08:00My partner and I decided to share one last name(he...My partner and I decided to share one last name(hers) to create one more sense of family for us and our kids. We felt like the hyphenated thing is just one more thing for us and the kids to deal with. That's just what worked for us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post-1130982811572849172005-11-02T17:53:00.000-08:002005-11-02T17:53:00.000-08:00I enjoyed your post. My partner and I have been tr...I enjoyed your post. My partner and I have been trying to figure out the last name dilemma for a while.Erynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02434037787487181291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9154009.post-1130981843961574102005-11-02T17:37:00.000-08:002005-11-02T17:37:00.000-08:00Curious why you are not having the baby as Biomom ...Curious why you are not having the baby as Biomom has already had that experience. As a man I see that as a big Lesbian advantage, both women have the oppurtunity to experience carrying a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com