Thursday, November 19, 2009

The Lion in Lamb's Clothing

I'm always surprised when I find out that a friend is anti-gay marriage.

I think I just move through the world thinking that people believe the way I do.

Regarding gay marriage, I'm not naive. I'm not a "marriage-only" type of lesbian. I'd be fine with it simply being my civil right. I'm a strong advocate of dividing church and state, and I think that we should have civil and religious aspects to marriage anyway. Furthermore, I'm libertarian enough to let someone with strong religious beliefs that tell them that gay marriage is immoral be.

Live and let live, I say.

So in the past couple of weeks, I've been sort of blind-sighted by first a student and then a friend who told me that they are anti-gay marriage.

Well, the friend said it more respectfully than the student: "That is a conversation that you and I shouldn't have. . . "

And then she went on to tell me that she puts me in a different camp.

Which I didn't understand at all, and then didn't follow up with a question.

It's funny. As liberal and libertarian as I am, I can't really let this one go. Do they really think that I don't deserve the same rights as every other citizen?

How does one get beyond this particular difference?

4 comments:

Mwa said...

I don't get it either. Like there are different categories of people or something. Maybe we should all get colour-coded clothes just to be sure. I wonder what "liberal feminist straight mother with a love for writing" clothes would look like, and if they would go with my shoes. Simply absurd.

Christine said...

So, she's against marriage for every gay person except for the ones she knows personally? Unbelievable.

giddings said...

Or maybe anyone that she's not looking in the eyes currently... ? Because she knows how hateful the belief is?

Jenn said...

Uhhh... well, I'm trying to remind myself that we live in 2009 and there are people that still think like this. Thankfully, I don't run across them very often in my daily life so I'm able to live in my happy world where gay marriage is accepted and normal.