Its funny. Lately both BioMom and I have noticed how people (particularly lesbians) are treating she and I differently with regard to Itsy (our name for the baby-in-utero borrowed from a colleague of mine).
Specifically, they see the baby as my first, and her second, which, strictly speaking, is true. But feels far from the facts.
Here are some excerpts from a recent conversation at the park:
Her: So, what are your feelings about becoming a MOM? (Emphasis hers).
Me, confused: Oh, you know. We're starting to stress out a little about the LOGISTICS of it all. (Emphasis mine. At the time). Our life is just so EASY now. We can just drop of the [FYO] at a friend's if we need to go out. We can easily pick up [the FYO] and [Sidekick] in our car. With both of our new babies [Sidekick's parents are adopting from China) we're thinking of *gasp* a different kind of car!
But that's not what she meant. And BioMom noticed it too. Its just so strange that they don't see me as a parent NOW and that having the baby would make all the difference.